Couples Counselling
Working with couples who are committed to taking radical responsibility for the quality of their relationships is a passion of mine.
I view relationships not just as central to fulfilling our needs for love, security and attachment, but also as vehicles that have the potential to unite and drive human purpose forward.
I work to help couples recognize and own the history, triggers and experiences that each brings to the relationship. In doing so, partners can become better friends and attentive lovers, navigate conflict effectively, and support each other's hopes for the future.
The quality of our relationships determine the quality of our lives
Areas
Skillful communication
Re-establishing trust after infidelity or betrayal
Pre-marital counselling and support
Spiritual progress and transformation
Increasing empathy, respect and trust
Rekindle sex and intimacy, tantric lovemaking
Consensual non-monogamy
Thriving, even during hard times
Finding shared meaning, growth and purpose
Conscious decoupling and divorce
What to expect From Couples Therapy
The sooner the better.
The sooner you get into couples therapy, the better. The longer you wait, the more entrenched habits become
Effort matters.
The effort you put into each session will equate to your results. Humans behave in patterns, so whether we leave a relationship or not, our patterns will follow us until we resolve them. Neglecting to do so will likely result in in the same unhealthy behaviours in your next relationship. Doing the work can make a real difference.
It takes time.
Couples work takes time. Of course it’ll be enlightening and fulfilling, but it will also require time and emotional labor. You will be asked to be vulnerable about your desires, to honest about what you don’t like about your relationship, and to be open to hearing criticism of your own actions.
Patterns do change.
Humans and relationships are all about patterns. What we think we are bickering about is usually a reflection of a deeper unmet need, an emotion and a fear. Anything that repeatedly presents as a stressor or a roadblock in the relationship is a pattern that can be addressed.
It’s not about advice.
Couples therapy is not about advice rather providing insight and corrective emotional experiences. Though, I can support you through a decision making process.
Happy couples come too.
Happy couples can go to therapy too! I encourage satisfied couples to come into therapy with some specific goals. For example, to have a better sex life, argue less, connect deeper. Therapy is a safe space for people to feel comfortable enough to express the things they usually wouldn’t express otherwise.